The path to creating your true hearts desire, the life of your dreams, requires that you to tend to your garden. When gardening, especially with Roses, there are many necessary steps one must follow to achieve the full potential beauty of the rose. You must first ready the soil, you must then plant the seed, each seed will require plenty of nourishment, water and sunshine for warmth and growth.
At all times you must be aware of any weeds growing that could choke out the life of your plant by robbing it of light, nutrients or space, you must also protect from bugs that would eat holes through the delicate petals of the rose and finally you must prune, cutting back areas for the betterment of the core and the vitality of the blossom.
I have found that to tend to our life and our true heart’s desire we must do the same. Consider yourself a Rose and let’s work together to discover if your environment is supportive and caring for you, your life, your dreams and your ambitions.
Yes you must take care of yourself. Until you consciously choose to be the BEST YOU, you will never be able to be the best mother, daughter, boss, lover or partner because THE BEST YOU is not present to create those roles in a healthy interdependent way.
This is the core of personal development work; to develop the best person you can be and, like the rose, reach your fullest potential for the beauty that is uniquely you. Developing yourself not just as a human being but as a woman “Being”.
“Being” a woman has many challenges as we are continuously pulled from one role to the next. Often we wake up in our adult years unsure of who we are and what we wish to create in the world.
Remember the three basic needs of women:
- The need to do something meaningful
- The need to leave a legacy
- The need to experience real love
However these needs are defined for you, we will explore them together. We will do this through coaching and intimate retreats. Our hope is wherever you are in your life one of these avenues will work for you.
What is personal coaching?
The concept of coaching has been around since the human race began. Elders have always coached/counseled the young, Masters in all of the arts have taken on promising apprentices, and there isn’t a world-class athlete that does not utilize the expertise of a coach.
A coach is someone who:
- Supports you where you are,
- Listens to where you would like to be,
- Helps sharpen your focus,
- Then provides council and support based on their experience and their knowledge of who you are.
Einstein stated: ‘You cannot solve problems with the same level of thinking that created them.’ This is why we sometimes get stuck when attempting to solve our own problems…we created them. You must go to a higher level of thought process, think outside the box and allow for new possibilities or congruency when desiring something different.
A coach’s job is to chunk down your challenges and bring important areas of potential breakdowns to your awareness. Awareness is the beginning of all conscious change. Awareness of these areas gives you the chance to explore where you are and how ‘who you are being’ got you there. We can then clarify how you truly want to BE in the world. It’s exciting, its juicy and it would be an honor to coach you on your journey toward living your best most complete life.
To grow, we must explore the areas in our lives that we have to balance every day; career, education, ethics, family, personals, health, home, recreation and finally spirit. All of these areas can have a profound affect on our lives; they will deeply enhance it when in balance or deeply damage it when out of balance.
The truth is your life, right now, is perfectly aligned to give you what you have. Perhaps better put, you are aligned to create exactly what you are experiencing both the good and the not so good. Therefore if you are getting what you truly do not desire then you are not aligned with what you believe you truly do desire. You must be ready willing and able to produce, at the cellular level, a higher level of congruency for those areas you desire and that begins with awareness.
Lets confirm the importance of these areas:
Ethics now there is a powerful word. Here’s the deal you cannot be your best self and live a fulfilled life if you are living it out of integrity. Integrity or wholeness of who you are is vitally important for you to feel good on the inside.
Family is possibly the most important and the most common area taken for granted. Parents must be reminded of the importance and power they have in their children’s lives.
Relationships with parents, children and spouses are not only important to society and to you as an individual they are the safe space where we should be able to land for comfort and security at the end of the day.
Personal Finances now here is the American weakness. We have been trained to live above our means. Credit cards, credit lines, expensive toys. It’s all here for the taking. Yet I would venture to say that this area probably creates one of our greatest internal stressors.
Health, everyone wants it few are willing to do what it takes to achieve it and then maintain it. Your health is the golden ticket. Your body is the vehicle through which you will experience your life. As a coach I am committed to you living your life ‘FULL OUT’ you cannot do that with health challenges.
Home is where the heart is. What shape is your home in? Do you enter it saying ahhh thank God I’m home or do walk into it and say Oh my God what a mess. As is the macro-cosm so is the micro-cosm. Your house is a reflection of you.
Our Career often times defines who we are. Have you ever asked yourself who would I be if I weren’t a surgeon, a lawyer, a teacher, or a homemaker. Do you know who you really are underneath that image?
Education, have you always wanted to further your degree? Are there certain conferences you should be attending to enhance you career? Would you like to begin to take unrelated classes in subjects you have always had an interest in? Knowledge is power and it can also be loads of fun. What are your educational goals?
Recreation; lets break down that word. RE-CREATE. This is where you get to re-charge your batteries, pursue your passions and belly laugh. Recreation is vital to body, mind and spirit. And yes we will find time to re-create our energy!
Finally Spiritual Connection, do you believe in a power greater than you? If not you probably spend a lot of time in fear. I do not care how you connect to spirit in your life but research and experience shows that those who do are happier, healthier and live longer.
These are the important areas that make up your life. To set up your personal coaching sessions go to contact us and in the subject line type personal coaching. Let’s begin your journey toward living your best most complete life filled with Joy Purpose and Passion.
Dr Kathleen A Hartford